Nothing But Love: Intuitive Children February 13, 2008
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“The issue is not so much being loved but being loving, which leads to the same wonderful feeling you experience when someone loves you.” –Carol Pearson
Love is used to describe many things and often used to describe many relationships throughout ones life, but true love is found in the heart of a child. I loved, adored my oldest son from the day he was born. He was always happy and pleasant to be around; he slept through the night at 7 weeks old and could be taken to any restaurant at any time and would never so much as sigh; he was cute as could be and photogenic to boot. He was an all around perfect baby. I couldn’t have loved any one or any thing more. I truly understood what the word love meant or so that’s what I thought. My life was complete and my heart was full.
When Adam was 18 months old, I found out I was pregnant again and not too pleased about it. I was happy and content with my one child, our home and my life. A few weeks after we received the news, I had a miscarriage. I was somewhat relieved and went back to things as they were. God had a plan, he always does. Another 9 months passed and I found out I was pregnant again. This time I felt some excitement about another baby, but the sonogram showed I would have yet another miscarriage. This time it was twins. I was in disbelief, but knew God had a plan, he always does. So when the news came again 1 year later I was pregnant, I deemed this pregnancy as high risk and took precautions to ensure I carried this baby to term.
9 months later our 2nd baby boy entered the world with ease. My labor and delivery went quickly and smoothly and by the looks of things, we would be blessed with another easygoing baby. Within a few weeks however, things didn’t appear to be going quite as planned. Caden did not sleep through the night by 7 weeks of age; he was not permitted to enter nice restaurants as a sigh would have been the quietest of moments; he didn’t travel long distances peacefully; and he was an attention seeker. He was all around quite the opposite of Adam. My life lesson- I did not know what unconditional love was. I was finding it out in the midst of sleepless nights and chronic spit up. I was entering into uncharted territory as from one moment to the next I didn’t know if I wanted to laugh or cry, but a change would take place that would leap frog my heart into a place I had not yet visited. I was learning what unconditional love truly was. By the time Caden was 2, the only words used to describe him were- he is nothing but pure love. He had an energy that surrounded him I had never been exposed to. Everyone who met this child commented on how sweet he was or how he exuded nothing but love. There was something really special about Caden and he would prove to be my greatest teacher in many, many ways.
One of his first tests as a toddler would be in the area of patience. In a rush to accomplish all of my work- house, business and otherwise- I neglected the signs Caden was handing me on a silver platter- pay attention to me! I ran upstairs for a shower about 20 minutes before Adam was due home from school. My objective was to be ready to take Adam shopping, which he had hopefully requested every day for a week.
Caden, meanwhile, was quietly watching “Shrek” in the playroom, and I gave little thought to what mischief he could be getting into. Showered, dressed and hair dried in 15 minutes, I came down with five minutes to spare. I opened the door to the playroom and was met with a surprise I could not have imagined. Every single one of our 15-plus board games were scattered all over the floor. I stood there in shock and disbelief. I never knew how many pieces were in a game of Risk and stood there horrified, trying to figure out how to begin cleaning up the mess. This would be the first of many messes Caden would bring into our lives. Today we lovingly joke about how Caden makes a mess with just about anything he touches. To be transformed from a clean freak to a mom who just accepts what is, has been an evolution all unto itself. Love truly does come in many forms!
He also has a knack for appearing at the right moment with a- mommy, I love you; or a funny anecdote or hug. After my dad passed away, for more than a year he would say, out of the blue- I miss papa or my heart hurts. I am constantly in awe of the words he uses to describe how things make him feel. He would pop into the room to tell my mom he loved her and can intuitively sense when someone needs a pick me up. I am also amazed at how aware he is of the people and things around him, including animals. He is often touched by the emotion he sees in another child or even watching something on T.V. One night, we were teaching our 11 month old “don’t touch.” She continued to grab at a fake plant on the fireplace hearth and our concern was she would pull it over with her weight which could lead to her getting seriously hurt. After repeated attempts at simply saying- “no, don’t touch,” my husband proceeded to pat her hand in an authoritative I mean business fashion. The drama began and the crocodile tears streamed down her little face. Caden who was a witness to the interaction, began to cry himself in consolation of his little sister. It was at that moment my husband and I both realized we were in for an interesting journey if we were to teach our youngest one what no means.
As I have traveled this journey as a parent, I have come to realize the blessings our children bestow upon us. Children aren’t born to us as beings to control, but rather people to learn from. I owe a debt of gratitude to all of my children, but to Caden for showing me the beauty of pure love; the simplest and most abundant resource in the Universe. The love of a child is the essential ingredient necessary to develop a competent and loving adult. I observe the love my children grace this world with and have come to realize that if I can learn half of what they know, I will be doing well in this lifetime.
“Grown men can learn from very little children for the hearts of little children are pure. Therefore, the Great Spirit may show to them many things which older people miss.” –Black Elk
©2007, Tara Paterson
When my first daughter was born she was indeed the perfect baby. She slept through the night at 5 weeks, always had a smile on her face, could take her anyway and she would sit or stay wherever you put her, an absolutetly wonderful baby, toddler, preschooler. When she turned 3 I had my second daughter, who in utero I knew would “swing from the chandeliers”, and she did! She did not sleep through the night until 3 months, she did not sit still and we seldom brought her to a restaurant. She challenged us constantly and having experienced such an easy time with our older child, it became a real challenge, particularly for my husband and his family.She was constantly compared to my older daughter which bothered me ALOT, since I was always the favorite in my house and I knew at a very young age just how wrong that was and would not tolerate that happening with my children. I found myself behaving like a bear protecting her cub. I recognized early on that my younger daughter was extremely resilient, extremely funny, very affectionate and had a personality that could capture your attention. As a preschooler she exhibited an incredile amount of empathy for a child that was being left out and bullied by some of the other children, children she herself was friendly with. She knew it was wrong and went out of her way to befriend this little girl and force the “bullies” to realize what they were doing was wrong and very mean………she was only 4 years old.
Today she is still very resilient, an excellent athlete, which helps channel her high energy, and she posesses an incredile amount of empathy and compassion for others. She is sharp and aware and is able to sense when something is happening that is wrong or problematic and will question something until she is satisfied with the answer and feels it is the truth……………..today she is 16 years old.
I knew this child had some rare and wonderful qualities very early on and after I was able to deal wirh this extremely active, always needing to set limits child, I saw what was so incredibly great about her and opened the minds of the family to look beyond the fact that she was a more “high maintanance” child, and really notice what was so strong and special about her.
They are ALL aware of that today.
Wendy,
You have done a marvelous job with your daughter and kudos to you for standing up to your family about her strenghts. ALL children have their gifts and strengths and it is up to us as their parents to be aware of them- accentuating the positive traits and drawing less attention to the one’s that could be less attractive or effective.
My oldest son is what we call an intuitive “behavioral” child. We have had to provide him with ample ways to manage his energy so it does not remain bottled up inside of him. He can appear high strung at times and early on I recall a teacher implying the potential for ADD, but I intuitively knew my child and worked with his gifts so he was comfortable and able to manage his energy on his own.
Today he is one of the best baseball players in our town and his grades are excellent. He is an achiever and we have taught him how to use that to his advantage.
Parents, trust your knowing about your child and stand up for what your gut tells you. Your children need you to be their advocate!