Why Do Kids See Ghosts? March 19, 2009
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Most people don’t realize that children have 35% more brainpower than adults, enabling kids to see ghosts. As indicated below by my friend, Michael Mendizza, younger children don’t have the ability to distinguish between or among realities. My grandson, age two says hi to his human playmate, his Thomas the Train toy or the train image on television, and to singers on MTV. At times, he will stare at the ceiling, his eyes light up, and he whispers “gramma.” In his world, all images are reality to his active, growing brain.
A child’s brainpower and intutive capacity allow a child to view far more than us adults. In addition we may be raised in cultures that don’t acknowledge any reality other than physical realities. That is the same PERCEPTION as those who declare we live in a left-brain world. They got it wrong! We live in a whole-brain world.
Michael Mendizza is an educational and documentary filmmaker; writer, photographer and co-founder of Touch the Future. He shares on young children’s abilities.
Why young children see things that grown-ups don’t.
1. Most adults don’t see entities that the general culture does not recognize. If they were raised in cultures that do – they would.
2. Of the vast electro-magnetic spectrum we humans ‘see’ but a small fraction – leaving most to what we call the unseen – which we usually dismiss as non existent.
3. The neural connections and capacity of the early brain far exceeds that of the adult.
4. By interacting with the environment-model the brain activates-develops only the potential networks that match or prove to be useful in the environment-model.
5. In the early years 2-5 or 6, the brain has not distilled enough to distinguish between conception/perception that is inner generated and outer generated.
6. It is usually during this time that young children experience and develop relationships with invisible friends – what we might call ghosts.
7. Between age 7 and 11 the brain comes to a different order and this dreamy influence diminishes in most.
8. At age 11 the brain flushes and dissolves the un-used potential neural networks, fixing the brain in its current relationship with the environment – effectively preventing any perception-experience that is not in sync with the environment-model-culture.
Oh no, I almost wished this capability didn’t .. disappear.
It is a special kind of innocents!
THnak you so much
we have found a cycle of the strongly intuitive children retain their wonderful gifts when their parents, caregivers or families reinforce it.
my 12 yr old told me point blank that she sometimes sees people who she believes are dead – she said sometimes they have blood one them and that they just come stand near her and don’t speak or scare her. I didn’t knnow how to respond. Her dad and I have been going through a divorce for 4 years now – not bitter just s-l-o-w… we are on good terms so I don;t think it’s anxiety about us – - I told her about my own paranormal experiences that mostly happened right after my own dad died when I was 13 and that my mom and several females in my family have had expierences. I told her that I believed her and asked if she was afraid. I don’t want her to feel in the dark about this but I dont’ want to ahrp on it too much… any advice?
Hi Sandra
You have three points in favor of your twelve year old: it runs in the family. It can be heightened during times of stress; it can be heightened and activated during hormonal changes of puberty. I think it is great you can share your experiences with your daughter. Mostly, my best advice is to listen, and buy my book, Raising Intuitive Children, which was written specifically to respond to your questions and discuss what these gifts of intuitive intelligence look like as children mature.
my daughter is 12years old and has had interaction with spirits since she was very young. I thought in had went away but 6months ago she informed me she was still seeing them. she is terified to talk to them and the way she describes them some of them are from a long time ago. She is a very bright girl get good grades in school and has always been very sensitive and loveing. She alway describes the spirits in great detail and just recently reviled that she saw 5 spirts and prayed really hard for them to go to heaven and they turned into balls of lights and dissapered. please help me help her concerned mom.
My 17 year old daughter sees ghost; she has for several years. They wander around the living all the time. She tries to ignore them because if they can tell she sees them, she “has to deal with them”. That usually means they hang around or wake her up a night for a while. Sometimes it is frightening and sometimes its people she knows. I can sometimes sense a presence and she can confirm it. Sometimes things will get knocked over or rarely I can hear sounds. It is very hard on her when it is someone she knows. She gets very upset by it. Sometimes they keep her awake and she doesn’t get rested at night. I know it sounds strange, but I truly believe her. She is stressed by this “burden”. What can I do to help her?
My 13 year old son just told his counselor he has been seeing ghosts everywhere since Dec.08. What do I do.? They don’t talk to him, they just talk to each other. Is this normal.
Dear Jessica
Sorry it has taken me so long to respond. I’ve been at a conference or two lately. The fact that your daughter sees ghosts seems to be part of her normal reality that you and she readily accept. You don’t know how much I appreciate that. How to help her is to accept her and not dismiss her. Your daughter also seems to know intuitively how to handle the spirits she deals with, such as praying for them and helping them move on. What you can do to help her is to accept her abilities as normal for her, listen to her stories, and when she is scared, if at all, be there for her to pray with her. She already knows her way around that world, but ask me any questions you like, and I am happy to respond.
Thanks for getting back to me. My daughter is still having some problems coping with the fact she sees ghost. she constantly feels watched when she goes to bed at night and always sleeps with her head under the covers, so as not to see anything.She fulley believes she would see somthing every night if she just could come out from under the covers. She has a ghost of a little girl in a white gown that she seems to see on a pretty regular basis, she belives that she is about 5. I hate that my daughter is so afraid at night and wish that I had more power to help her. Anyway I think maybe reading about some of these other kids experiences will help.
Thanks again Jessica
Hi Jessica,
There are very two important chapters in Raising Intuitive Children that will help you and your daughter tremendously on Negotiating Environments. Think of ghosts as spirit walkers, simply beings without bodies, and explain to your daughter that she is in control of her room and she can push back, tell them to go away for the night, leave her sleeping space alone, and other such actions she would take…the same as if a person with a physical body bothered her at night. What I find is that children do not know how to take these steps by themselves. The behaviors must be modeled, practiced, and role played with a confident parent who believes that their child has the power to make the dog go away. Do you believe? Imagine that you were showing your daughter how to teach a dog to sit. You have specific voice tones and say “sit” with strength so the dog “gets” it and sits. Then the dog is rewarded. Your daughter will be rewarded when she take back control of her environment and not hiding. Is this enough to go on to help her? Do you feel confident enough?
Dear Worried Mom
Your daughter needs some help. I do believe you and I believe her…with good reason. I recently read a book about a woman who had your daughter’s ability (and problem, depending upon how you see it) and she described the way she learned to deal with this over the years. If you would the name of the book, let me know.
I’ve recently interviewed two astute women who saw ghosts as teens.They still do today and wear face masks to sleep. So it might be helpful if I spoke with your daughter t help her understand that she is the person who controls her environment, and she can ask them to leave, if she wants them to leave. Ir if she wants to help, she can, but that opens the door to a whole way of life she may not want at her age. If she would like to talk. Please let me know.
One point for you and your daughter to consider is why she has this intuitive talent and how it serves her personal growth or spiritual life, or whether it is a nuisance. Please share your thoughts.
Caron Goode
Caron,
I would be very interested in the name of the book. My daughter already uses a eye mask and night light to help sleep at night. I smiled to myself when I saw the reference to the mask in your email.
She has some success in asking for them to leave. It just can be disconcerting for her when it is a child or brutalized victim. She has helped a few people to get messages from the deceased. It is very interesting to hear her give information that I personally know to be correct, but that she would have no way of knowing.
We spoke to a man at the Sedona New Age center a few years back, that was amazed by my daughter. He enjoyed the experience so much that he didn’t charge us for the hour (only the 15 minute session) or creep us out. He indicated she had much psychic talent and energy and she should explore it. He indicated we were both “indigo chidren” and were surround by many spirits and energy. He indicated we had both repeated many, many life cycles with my daughter the oldest. He talked about how strong and powerful my daughter was. We thought he was on track with some of his insight, but maybe pulling our chain to get money. We had to cut him off because we needed to leave–he did not seek other sessions or try and get revenue. It felt very honest and real.
My daughter isn’t so interested in exploring this “talent”; she just wants to be a teenager. It was about 3 months after the Sedona trip that my daughter confessed she “saw dead people”; and had for a long time. She talks about the guardian protective lights that shimmer around everyone and how they increase in intensity when that person needs/receives help. She hates to talk about it and doesn’t see it as a gift. She recently had a dear friend die of heart failure. It was very hard on her when she started seeing him because it made her sad and miss him. Now he is in a guardian role for her and watches out for her. He gave her great advice during a recent car problem and helped keep her safe. For me it is interesting and scary at the same time; not so much for her…..
Hi Debbie
Thanks for sharing about your son’s ability to see ghosts as of December, 2008. When you ask me if this is normal, I would have to change the question, “Is this normal for him?” It is unusual that your son would suddenly start seeing them if he never had the ability before. However, extreme stress or trauma can cause a level of opening. Also some medications can cause hallucinations or open doorways to an altered biochemistry and dissociation. Can you please tell me more about your son’s circumstances in December of 2008?
thank you
caron
Hi Worried Mom
You sound like you have a great handle on this situation. Do read Raising Intuitive Children. I think there are helpful suggestions, especially from Dr. Judith Orloff as well as myself. The name of the book I suggested is Their Way Home, My Adventures As A Ghost Guide, by Melissa Van Rossum. If your daughter decides she would like to work with another psychic who also sleeps with an eye mask, I will make another recommendation. And if she just wants to be a normal teen and get on with her life, then so be it. As parents of psychic teens, we take our clues from what they need and desire as they learn about their talents. I personally think psychic teens need a mentor, not necessarily a teacher, to help them accept and live with a talent. Your daughter’s talent is particularly cumbersome as she has so many choices: to close the psychic door, keep it open, tell the ghosts to go away, help them, feeling emotionally pulled, determining the why and wherefore of her talent.
So I share your concern, and at 13, the energy of strength and intelligence I feel from your daughter is clear and strong. I feel like she has a strong grasp of her talents. What I also know is what we resist will persist, so we work with intuitive parents and children on strong inner connections and wisdom. Please see the training we offer here…http://www.intuitivesonline.com/classes.htm. Let me know if this calls to you…
Dear Caron,
Isn’t “normal teen” a contradiction in terms? I did feel your visit yesterday evening and interest in our situation.
Thanks for your suggestions. We are just glad that she isn’t the only one with this issue; that is a relief to her. I will pick up the book for her. I am afraid that this isn’t something you can chose to ignore and to be realistic and honest, she will have to find her way to deal with it. It is interesting to me and try not to push her. Some of the spirits she encounters are confused or angry and some are like talking with a living person. It seems like some know they are dead and others aren’t so sure. Something draws them to our home. I feel like I am my daughter’s gatekeeper, in more ways than as a mom.
I do think this issue weighs on her health and stress levels. I have discussed some sheilding techniques I use when working with people that have negative energy. Mainly because I am concerned about the dark shapes that seem to come mostly in threes and say negative and hurtful things. I instinctively feel that these things make people hurt themselves and cause self doubt. Thank goodness they are not frequent and she knows them for what they are, and how weak they are. On the positive side, I find it comforting to know that our loved ones can and do keep an eye on us. My daughter is 17 and has so many options open to her. I know she will make the right choices for herself, whatever they will be. Yes; I will keep you updated. Thanks.
Hi Worried Mom
Sorry for the age confusion, and yes, “normal teen” could certainly be a contradiction in terms. LOL! In my work with teens, there are several personal issues that we explore in regard to their life direction and their soul’s purpose or life mission, depending upon one’s viewpoint. This true for whatever the teen’s talent or gift: music, math, being psychic, loving to teach etc. They need to answer these questions for themselves:
Why do they have their gift? (awareness)
What do they intend to do with it? (intention)
What kind of support do they need to get there. (planning)
who can help them? (mentoring)
What inner resources do they bring to the table? (resilience)
For a psychic child, additional discussions center on why do you magnetize to you certain entities? Why shadows that come in threes and say hurtful things?
For an eight year old last week, we devised an imagery technique of a dial, like on a stove, that she can turn down to dim her light, and it seems to help. If the shielding technique works, then great. If not, then the power within to deal with the situation has to come from two centers, the heart (emotional center) and the abdomen, or hara center, as they say in karate class. Without the power centered in strength to say no, to control her inner and outer environment, then I would also have concern about the stress levels and emotional moods for your daughter. So how is she really faring with all of this? What techniques are helpful to her?
Caron
i can see ghost i’m 13 yrs old girl…
since i was 5 i can see ghost everytime..anywhere..anytime.. thats why i came here to see the site why i see ghost..i dont know how i can see them.. they talk too..they are not evil at all..
its very hard to explain..
Hi Alyssa
Some people can see ghosts because that is their talent, like a math genius or a musician. Your talent is clairvoyance – seeing with your inner eyes. You are right, it is very hard to explain, but science is making progress in understanding how intuition works and how people process information through their brains and central nervous system. I am actually surprised by the large number of people I’ve run into who do see ghosts.
who or what do you see? do you help them or just talk to them?
Caron
Very informative! Having children with these abilities sure makes life interesting! To share a couple of our latest experiences: On our property, there is an old barn. When we walk our dog down the little dirt road past the barn – sometimes the dog likes to stop & sniff around the barn. There are times Anthony gets the feeling that “someone” there doesn’t want us to hang around there. Anthony says it feels “mildly threatening.” But he doesn’t feel really scared of it. He did see a man up in the loft once – we were out and about in the golf cart and Anthony said “Oh, there’s a man up there! Oh, he’s trying to hide, he doesn’t want us to see him.” He said the man was crouched down watching us from the opening. Anyhow, back to walking the dog by the barn – a few weeks ago, Anthony, Scruffy (the dog) and I were walking and in the field near the barn, Anthony saw a black mass of some sort, and Anthony did not feel good about it. Then the dog saw it – and he became uncontrollable – barking, snarling, growling, jumping, trying to get at something that only he and Anthony could see. I thought he was going to break his leash! It took both of us to pull him away so we could get back to the house. We did ask for protection to stay between whatever that black mass was & us. Yesterday, again about dusk, we were walking Scruffy on another part of our property and as we were headed back to the house, Anthony said “There’s a spirit there pointing back toward a clearing under a tree. I asked what it looked like and Anthony said “A shadow.” But he didn’t feel scared of it. Again Scruffy saw what Anthony saw and began barking – not like before when he was growling and jumping. This was more of a curious bark – tail up, ears up – like “What is that?” It kind of makes Anthony feel good that at least the dog can see what he’s seeing – occasionally his brother can see the same things, but mostly it’s just Anthony. I just thought I would share a little of what’s been going on around these parts! Hope you all have a great day!
Patti
About two years ago, my daughter leaped into my bed after awaking to a shadowy figure of a woman looking over her. She also reported two “shadow dogs” in the living room that looked like our recently departed pets. I wrote this off as a “waking dream” at first. (I had a pretty scary experience at her age – I had convinced myself was a dream but now I’m not so sure). If I ask her about it now, the details are still very fresh in her mind. I asked her if she was feeling anything as she saw this woman and she said “sad”. She also said it was cold as she moved past the woman. Another experience worries me…one day she was riding in the car w/ her father and saw what she called a demon. She describes it as a figure in a dark robe looking at her as they passed by. She says she was not dreaming and when she looked back it was gone. She seems to think it flew over the top of the car. I’m sure she has heard the word demon before but we don’t just throw that word around. We are Christians, but aren’t very religious per se’. I guess I’m just shocked that she is so matter of fact about it. She is a very intelligent and loving child but also a bit “out of sync” with her peers. I don’t doubt her….she is also honest to a fault. She is very imaginative, but not one to live in a fantasy world.
We have moved since then and she has reported hearing a man and woman talking but can’t make out what they are saying. She even got out of bed to investigate one night to make sure everyone was asleep and that the tv wasn’t on. She could tell me specifically what area of the house it came from. It has been several months and nothing notable has happened since then. Is it possible to have this ability and it only surface once in a while? She’s only had a handful of experiences but it’s not frequent (Thank goodness!) – Sarah
Patti
Thanks for sharing your stories. I appreciate them all.
Caron
I’m 11 years old and I kid of don’t see them but i can fell there presence or something and also if there is a strange place I just stare into space in that room. I have never seen any scary movie that involved anyting to dramatic for my eyes. My bacj starts to like feel uncomfortable and I constantly look over my shoulder. Every one calls me a spazz becasue im always doing that. It’s almost like i can feel my guardian angel watching me. I hear things a lot too which scares me. Also I have dreams of things happening or things that have already happened but in the other persons point of view. I shudder a lot and I’m always cold I get scared easily becasue of what happens to me all the time. If any one can have an explaination for any of those things please tell me. Thank you.
My 8-year old son has seen a couple ghosts in our home and each one had a blob or orb of light above their head. He isn’t really afraid of them, he just doesn’t like when the man ghost stands over his bed while he’s sleeping. He has been seeing ghosts for about 3 years now. He also sees flashes of light in his peripheral vision. Are those ghosts too, or possibly a vision issue? He also says he can see the future in his dreams. This is recent and we haven’t really tested this yet, but plan to over the next couple weeks. He is a straight A student, in the gifted class at school.
Recently he has been playing a lot on his Nintendo DS (about 2 hours a day). He is consumed with discussing the happenings on Pokemon. I’ve seen other children get bored and walked away when he discusses the game in-depth. It’s almost like an LSD trip with swirling lights and strange creatures, etc. What are your thoughts on a quiet little boy, somewhat of a loner, getting dragged into this virtual world to the isolation of real friends? I hate to take it away altogether because it’s the only game or activity he truly enjoys.
Hi Becca
Can’t say I blame your son for not liking a ghost standing over his bed when he is trying to sleep. Think I’d kick them out of my room. You asked my opinion on a quiet little boy who prefers Nintendo over friends. If I were a younger mom and school teacher as I was in my thirties, I would have more distinct opinions on the fact that the games keeps kids in an alpha brave wave state and away from life. What I didn’t know in my thirties that I know now is that children’s interactive styles differ, and whether or not they play games, I look to see if they are stressed or in the zone when playing the game. We want in the zone rather than stress. Both are addictive states: one causes illness, the other causes joy, creativity and inspiration. You can know which he is in by his behavior.
While i have worked with sensitive children since the 70s, the second thing I learned as the tech world netted our sensitive kids, is that they need time alone, in whatever form they take it, and if your son is also an empath and deep feeler, then being away from people may help him. If he is escaping from pain or divorce or a stressful situation, then he’ll play the game until he doesn’t need it any more.
The third thing that has changed is that we used to want to protect out children from the world and the machines rather than trusting our children’s judgment and helping them discern what is the best activity. I find now that children will immerse themselves in an interest or hobby as practice for living, and when they get it, they move on. So my opinion is really a series of questions: why does he play the game? is he an empath? does he has a history of immersion in an activity and then moving on?
Dear Victoria
With your empathic ability, and with the changes happening in your body, it is time for YOU to take charge of your world. When feeling come up, rather than looking over your shoulder and spazzing out, try this. Stand straighter, look straight ahead, take several deep breaths, pumping up all of your positive energy, and walk forward with purpose, strength and courage. Why do this? It shows strength, not weakness. You bring your focus back to your center and not let yourself be influences by uncomfortable feelings around you. When those feelings surround you, blow them away like blowing bubbles away, push them back, or ignore them and move ahead. Your biggest challenge is not to be pushed over by these. Unplug your energy from such feelings around you and plug back into yourself. Please try these and let me know what works best for you.
You are welcome Victoria. You keep letting me know how you are. I am here to help you. Please read this also because I found good friends named Susan and Wildcat (nickname for Steve) at www,placeoflight.net. They have a yahoo group where kids can talk to each other without adults, and free conference calls where you can whatever questions you want. This is some of their advice, which I love:
Wildcat responds: “One of the biggest reasons why is because children haven’t forgotten how to use their abilities; so spirits tend to linger near ones that know that they can see them, feel them, or hear them. In many cases, spirit people want to be heard, to say something, or even make friendship in a lot of ways.
“For us in the flesh, we forget about the spirit part. Today’s movies portray most of these spirits as bad and evil, and that’s not true. It’s just having an understanding and a balance of things. You can find good in anything if you really look. No matter how bad it is or how bad the person is, you can find good in it. If you find that good, that’s where you can grow and learn.
“I’ve had children come to me that say, ‘I have spirits bother me all the time, even when I’m at school. I can’t concentrate. I hear voices. I hear sounds.’
“I tell them to pick a time, a certain time to deal with the spirits. So every day, between 6:00 and 7:00, when you have the time, tell them ‘I will speak with you then. I will help you, but it has to be one at a time, and when the hours are done, that’s it. I need my personal time. I need to go play. I need to go read a book. I need to study for school. I need to do things, too.’ Spirits listen. They’re just like us; they just don’t have a concept of time.
“Go ahead and make your choices. Take control of your life and your time. When I go and help people from the spirit world, I pick and choose my time. I don’t want them bothering me when I’m taking a shower. I don’t want them bothering me when I’m trying to eat or work with a client.
The only time I’ll allow spirits to come in and interfere is when the client wants to speak to that spirit, or that spirit has something very important to talk to that client about. I’ll describe the spirit to client, and give them as much information as possible, and then I’ll ask them, ‘Would you like to speak with this spirit?’ If not, then I’ll send it away. If so, then we will let it speak. Ninety-five percent of the time they’ll let the spirit speak, and then the spirit will never bother them again. The message just had to come through.”
• There’s always an output. There’s always a place to get what you need. Don’t ever feel that you’re abandoned.
• If you do feel alone, ask the Creator, or whoever you believe in, to give you the energy of love that they need to shift things around them…to open their parent’s ears and eyes…so they would be more willing to learn also.
• Question the parents if they’ve ever heard or seen or felt psychic. Ask you aunt, uncle, or grandmother. Someone in the family will remember because this does run in families.
• The only limitations there are the ones we put in front of us. If a druggie’s energy from the next apartment is so negative and pushing your way, push it back and say, “I don’t want any part of it. Just keep it. That’s yours. I’ll send you some love also and maybe that will help you change your way.”
• If the energy or ghosts in a certain room frighten you, then change the energy in the room. Take control. Go in there, sit there and change the energy. Paint rainbows in the air. Think of a very beautiful place and then push that energy out and all around the room. Then say, ‘I’m leaving this energy here.” If you leave it there, nothing negative will go there.
By taking control of your environment, you can be true to yourself and stay safe. Wherever I lay my head, I prepare it for myself before I lay down, and that’s just always been my way.
Susan Gale shares more on managing fears: “Another thing that helps people understand the fear is what I call it an ET moment. In the movie, ET, when the little sister met ET, she screamed, ET screamed and then everybody screamed.
“When you act like that little girl, you frighten the spirit people as much as you feel frightened by them. Expect the same of spirit people that you would expect people with physical bodies.
“You would expect good manners. You wouldn’t let people just come into your room at will if they were physical people. You wouldn’t expect to look up and see 20 people your bathroom. Make your choices and take control of your environment. Here are other strategies that work for children:
• Imagine a radio with a dial, and when sound is too much, just turn the volume down.
• When spirit people need to go to Light or another place, create a staircase wherever you are, and when spirits come around, you can say, ‘There’s the way to the light. There are people on the other side whose job is to help people cross over. Watch for helpers at the top of the staircase.” Then let them go up.’
“I was in Texas once and my geographic location had such a heavy, feeling. So one morning I went out very early and put up staircases like every 50 feet, everywhere, and I could see whole families holding hands and running up. Then I found out later that the location had been a sugar cane plantation. You can imagine the agony people went through that had to work those fields. The place felt much better afterwards. Other people noticed how much lighter the land was afterward. I know of many who have made the staircases and just left it permanently.
“When you’re walking in love, and when you’re projecting love, it’s like two notes on the piano. You can play two notes on the piano and it sounds like racket, right? When you’re walking in love, it doesn’t harmonize with negativity, and so it can’t be around you so much. If negativity is around you, then you aren’t comfortable, because there’s no harmony for it.
“If you’re afraid, if you’re hurt or if you’re depressed, then the negativity will harmonize with you, and you keep it around. Some people have to work hard to keep themselves in that positive place where they won’t harmonize with negative things.
“For example, empathic children, who feel other’s energy, need to learn to push out their energy and not allow negative things to come to them. Those are some of the things we do to learn how to take it when somebody is pushing bad energy on you and how to keep it off you. These are techniques that you can use, that you can learn.”
Hi I have a lil girl that is 4 years old and she keeps telling me that she sees ghost that are trying to take her baby sister. And that the girl ghost has a baby girl with the same name as my daghter. She said that she is sceared sometimes but not all the time, just when the ghost tells her that she going to take off her face and scear her. And now she just told me that it tryed to choke her. I really don’t know what to do about any of this. I’ve moved and still the same thing. All i tell her is to close her eyes and pray that it gose away. And to tell me so i can try and help her, Cause i am able to feel things at times too.
hi Deanna
here are some suggestions
Susan Gale of A Place of Light (www.placeoflight.ne)t: “One of the biggest reasons why is because children haven’t forgotten how to use their abilities; so spirits tend to linger near ones that know that they can see them, feel them, or hear them. In many cases, spirit people want to be heard, to say something, or even make friendship in a lot of ways.
“For us in the flesh, we forget about the spirit part. Today’s movies portray most of these spirits as bad and evil, and that’s not true. It’s just having an understanding and a balance of things. You can find good in anything if you really look. No matter how bad it is or how bad the person is, you can find good in it. If you find that good, that’s where you can grow and learn.
“I’ve had children come to me that say, ‘I have spirits bother me all the time, even when I’m at school. I can’t concentrate. I hear voices. I hear sounds.’
“I tell them to pick a time, a certain time to deal with the spirits. So every day, between 6:00 and 7:00, when you have the time, tell them ‘I will speak with you then. I will help you, but it has to be one at a time, and when the hours are done, that’s it. I need my personal time. I need to go play. I need to go read a book. I need to study for school. I need to do things, too.’ Spirits listen. They’re just like us; they just don’t have a concept of time.
“Go ahead and make your choices. Take control of your life and your time. When I go and help people from the spirit world, I pick and choose my time. I don’t want them bothering me when I’m taking a shower. I don’t want them bothering me when I’m trying to eat or work with a client.
The only time I’ll allow spirits to come in and interfere is when the client wants to speak to that spirit, or that spirit has something very important to talk to that client about. I’ll describe the spirit to client, and give them as much information as possible, and then I’ll ask them, ‘Would you like to speak with this spirit?’ If not, then I’ll send it away. If so, then we will let it speak. Ninety-five percent of the time they’ll let the spirit speak, and then the spirit will never bother them again. The message just had to come through.”
• There’s always an output. There’s always a place to get what you need. Don’t ever feel that you’re abandoned.
• If you do feel alone, ask the Creator, or whoever you believe in, to give you the energy of love that they need to shift things around them…to open their parent’s ears and eyes…so they would be more willing to learn also.
• Question the parents if they’ve ever heard or seen or felt psychic. Ask you aunt, uncle, or grandmother. Someone in the family will remember because this does run in families.
• The only limitations there are the ones we put in front of us. If a druggie’s energy from the next apartment is so negative and pushing your way, push it back and say, “I don’t want any part of it. Just keep it. That’s yours. I’ll send you some love also and maybe that will help you change your way.”
• If the energy or ghosts in a certain room frighten you, then change the energy in the room. Take control. Go in there, sit there and change the energy. Paint rainbows in the air. Think of a very beautiful place and then push that energy out and all around the room. Then say, ‘I’m leaving this energy here.” If you leave it there, nothing negative will go there.
By taking control of your environment, you can be true to yourself and stay safe. Wherever I lay my head, I prepare it for myself before I lay down, and that’s just always been my way.
Susan Gale shares more on managing fears: “Another thing that helps people understand the fear is what I call it an ET moment. In the movie, ET, when the little sister met ET, she screamed, ET screamed and then everybody screamed.
“When you act like that little girl, you frighten the spirit people as much as you feel frightened by them. Expect the same of spirit people that you would expect people with physical bodies.
“You would expect good manners. You wouldn’t let people just come into your room at will if they were physical people. You wouldn’t expect to look up and see 20 people your bathroom. Make your choices and take control of your environment.
my daughter is four and for the past 2 years shes been seeing things…. she calls em “geechies” or “monsters”. she really cries and i dont know know what to do, i dont think theres anything you really can do. when she sees something she gets really scared and screams her lil head off and cries like i never hear her cry (except when she sees things). i know they say kids see more than adults, but my neices and nephews dont see things like she does and it bothers me. once she said it was a monster and it was all bloody. another time she was sleep when we got home and i was carrying her in and she kept saying “mom what about him?!” finally she hit me and asked me again and i told her there was nobody there, she looked at me like i was weird or something. just the other night she said there was a monster outside in the garden and it had no head. another time she saw a monster crawl up the front of the van and up the windshield and she screamed her head off and cried and faced the seat and she said it was sitting on top of the van. those were just a few times she saw things. help?
Please provide your email and I will send you a chapter out of a book I wrote which will help you. Your daughter needs four things:
1. she needs you to pay attention when she sees something and ask about it, listen to her in the same way as if she were telling you about a doll…like be interested, smile and reassure her.
2. She needs you to pick her up and comfort her, connect with her and help her feel safe when she is in tears.
3. The screaming is causing undue anxiety, and then escalates when you don’t intervene. So if you do intervene, let me know how, and I can suggest some other strategies to help calm her.
4. She needs to know that you will help her fight the monsters. So let’s create a game to help her know that she is in control and has the power to make the monster go away. I suggest you go to Walmart or a Dollar Store and buy a costume – like a pirate costume with a sword – or buy her a tool like a kid’s baseball bat, the big colorful kind. When you get home, prepare the stage for a monster hunt. Paint your faces, gets your tools and hunt the monster down and make it go away. Even if this game is just pretend for a couple sessions – consider it practice for when she really sees the monster. Then grab the tools and make it go away – yell, stamp your feet and give her the power to say no.
Will you do this and then report to the blog and let us know how long it took for the monsters to go away? Most of all, please help her when she screams so she knows you care and love her through your hugging and cuddling?
Thanks so much. Let me know what happens
Caron
My daughter was in third grade when she first mentioned that she was seeing ghosts. It was a hard year that year, my husband deployed for a year. He was in the military. She cried and felt that something was wrong with her and that she wasn’t normal. She would see faces of friends in the past and teachers, (from other bases we had lived) She also saw herself, which was real wierd to hear, but I kept my face normal as though nothing was wrong with what she told me. Later on as she got older, she would wake up at night and see ghosts. One in paticular was a man and daughter whoe were from an old time frame float hand in hand out her window as though they were on a walk in the park. She has seen shadows with bright light outlines of thier bodies. We have moved off base and bought a house. She has seen ghosts in our new house, sometimes three at once, they are black with light around them. If the light is off she sees them and when light is on she sees them. Sometimes more clearer than others. She one night was in bed and woke up and it was real cold by her bed, she saw a ghost walk past her and she felt a wind in her face. She woke her sister up; trying to find someone to talk too. She is 13 and does not like this gift. I told her that it is a gift and she said, ” Well, this is the suckiest gift ever.” I never dicourage or dismiss what she sees. I believe her and know for a fact she has a gift. This has been going on for so long. I want to help her. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I also would like to know how she has so many different gifts. She saw old friends, teachers, not thier bodies, but just thier faces above her as she walked from class to class. She saw herself, then she sees ghosts. I could see; seeing ghost, but the other faces and herself, I am not sure about that. That also was only when she was in third grade. Now she only sees these ghosts. Others in the family have heard things, but haven’t seen anything. I was in my bedroom and my tv was on and I was folding clothes on my bed.( I have and old tv and you really have to push the button to turn my tv offf and it makes a loud click. I heard the click and my tv was turnned off. I was alone in the room. I turned the tv back on and ignored what had happened. Any advice on what may be going on and how to help my daughter. Thank you so much! Shannon
Dear Shannon,
From what you tell me, your daughter psychic senses seem to have evolved out of stress with the deployment of your husband. This happens when the cortisol in some sensitive children goes on adrenal overload and the temporal lobes of the brain are activated, then dissociation occurs. Dissociation is a normal defense mechanism against loss or intense emotions or trauma, by enabling the trauma to be stored in memory and other brain processes take over to help the person compensate.
In the case of your daughter at age 3, the meltdown during your husband’s deployment was the trigger, I surmise from what you have told me. Since a younger child’s brain power is 35% more imaginal than an adults, her seeing ghosts and figures is a normal response to the stress for her age.
During the dissociative states, some children and adults do “disappear”, as in lose their sense of boundaries which might have been tied to an the adult in their lives.
The fact that it has continued, bothers her consistently is not a good thing either. This, she is a not able to see it as a gift, whether or not you tell her. She does not believe it.
The children who dissociate and find peace or comfort in their ability to commune with or on other spirits or angels use this compensatory ability well. Those like your daughter who are still unsettled with the ability, are still also unsettled with the original pain of loss.
Shannon, this is what I would do if she were my daughter.
1. I would listen when she speaks about it, and then ask her what she would like to do about it. You need say nothing more than ask the question and help her realize she has control and a choice. She is not stuck with this gift. Her doorway opened at age 3 and she can close it. Let her think about the possibility.
2. Keep asking, next tell her that she is in control of her life, not the ghostly figures.
3. If she can get a handle on it, then good.
4. If she cannot, then I would find a spiritual counselor\therapist (Jungian, Transpersonal, spiritual, humanistic) to help her deal with this before she gets too much older.
5. If you decide she needs to see a therapist or counselor, do it soon before she becomes completely absorbed into teen culture and wants to turn the images off in other ways.
6. The therapist is not someone who will prescribe drugs, but someone who will work with cognitive therapy, brief therapy, journalling etc.
If you do decide on the therapist route, make it clear that it is not your your daughter’s sole choice to say yes or nor, but an option you are choosing for her, to explore with her.
If you tell me where you live, I might be able to recommend someone.
What else is helpful for you to know?
Caron
She hasn’t said anything about seeing anything around lately. (Thank God!) Although I do remember a time when she said there was someone by the name of “Jeffrey” that was sitting on the middle armrest of the front seat of the car. She told me to move my arm because he was sitting there. She doesn’t know anyone by that name so I don’t know where she got t from. That was the first and last time she mentioned him. I don’t know if I mentioned this.
Hi Beth, So things seem to be smooth right now?
CARON
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hi my name is Mark Webster and i see ghosts of cats.i see them all the time i just talk to them and sometimes they come sit on the end of my bed at night time..i am that usedto having a cat on my bed i just ignore them now..
markwebster374@hotmail.co.uk
Hi Mark
Are the cat spirits those who used to be with you in a body? Or just nightly visitors?
Caron
My son has just turned 3 years old. He woke last night around 2a.m screaming for me. I asked him what was wrong and he replied there was a monster in his room. I calmed him down and asked him about it this morning. He said it was a woman who was messing about with his blind on his window. He said she was nice and said hello. He said something about she said something about him going downstairs, but he has a babygate to prevent that. I am not sure what to make of it all. He does from time to time appear to ’see’ “monsters” and “ghosts” and I am sure he does. His reaction is genuine and I dont allow him to watch anything which would give him reason to say and be frightened of these things. He has spoken to my partner on the phone who was many miles away in Wales and asked him if he had car keys. My partner replied “yes I have my aunties car keys.” My son said “green car?” My partner and I was freaked out. Even I didnt know his aunties car was green or in fact that my partner had her keys.
Hi Lisa
It is normal for a three year old to have some of these intuitive abilities for several reasons of more brain synapses and connections before the brain prunes itself at a later age. No need to be freaked out. P. M. H. Atwater, researcher of near-death experiences in children and adults has this to say: “The birth of children’s imagination involves the temporal lobes taking in and sorting all these different forms, shapes, colors and sounds so children can build incredible neural libraries that enable us to have perspective and make comparisons as we grow older. Such experiences give us a solid base for what might be expected of us as we live here on the earth plane.
“The development of the temporal lobes is so important. Up to around the age of six, it is primary in the way children see and respond to the world around them. In my research of 277 child experiencers of near-death states, between the ages of birth to 15 years, most of my cases clustered within two age spans— from birth to 15 months, and the other from three years of age until not quite six. This is significant.
“Previous research by a myriad of professionals have long since established that the years of three to five is when most children have invisible friends, are highly psychic, see demons/angels/fairies/aliens, and spend a lot of time in the imaginal worlds. This is the birth of imagination and absolutely necessary for the growth of a healthy child. What I have been able to establish is that during those same years, in fact, from birth to not quite six, is when the largest number of children appear also to have near-death experiences.
“The profound enhancements that can occur with the very young after experiencing the phenomenon raises the question: is it possible to have temporal lobe expansion BEFORE temporal lobe development?
“All of the different papers and studies that have been done indicate that these are the ages when most children have invisible friends, are highly psychic, see demons, angels and fairies, spend a lot of time in the imaginal worlds, and that is just so necessary.”
That says what your son experiences is normal for his age and development, including the monsters at night. Whether or not children keep these aspects of intuitive intelligence open depends upon your feedback and responsiveness to his world. Please pick up a copy of Raising Intuitive Children, which will enable you to support this early intelligence is you wish.
Hi – my almost 13 yr old daughter sees ghosts all the time. This “talent” first became apparent when she was 2 – we were doing construction on the house and she would see “people” in the living room. It terrified her. We would shout for them to leave and eventually they would. One day she simply stated that the people “went on vacation” never to return again. I would say over the last 6 months or so, they are back. There are specific people she sees all the time, and others that are different and come and go. She says they seem to be unaware of her or us…she has never attempted to communicate with them either. She doesn’t feel any negativity coming from them, but doesn’t like it either. She comes from a long line of people with psychic abilities from my mother’s side of the family, and I knew from very little she would have an awareness not shared by many others. As an infant, you could see a “knowingness” in her eyes, that this certainly wasn’t her first time on the planet. Anyway, I guess my question is what – if anything- we can do to make the ghosts leave. My daughter really hates it, and has a lot off difficulty sleeping as a result, they tend to follow her around a lot. Please let me know. Thanks. Val
Hello,
I have a 2 year old daughter,Cloie, that says she sees my mom. my mom has been dead for 6 years and Cloie has seen her twice.We dont talk to her about my mom and there is only one pic of her at my dads house. she will just out of the blue say “mawmaw Gladys” and I ask her if she sees her and where and she will point and say right there. the other thing is we live in an very old house. my husband has owned it for years and when we had Cloie we decided to fix it up. I would work on it alot by myself and then would get that feeling that someone was there but I was the only one in the house. We had a branch of TAPS come investigate for us and they did get two voice recordings. one was a woman whispering and the other was a man screaming. Cloie has seen “people” in the stairwell and this morning she told me there was a “guy” standing in the doorway of the stairs. It is really hard for me to beleive she is making it up because I dont know where she would get something like that from. If you have any suggestions on how to verify this please le me know. thank you. Wendy
Hello Wendy, Thanks for sharing Cloie’s stories. Would you clarify what you mean by verify? Then I know how to respond. Thanks
I might interpret it as you want ghosthunters to visit your home?
perhaps a psychic or medium to do a reading and talk the ghosts?
Or are you desiring someone to work with Cloie?
caron
First I think im just wanting to know if this is really possible, is she really seeing these things? I do believe in ghost but then again it is my child that is telling me she is seeing them so I think I might be in denial. If you think there is a good chance she really sees them what would you suggest we do? Do we just wait and maybe she will out grow it or should we look into it more? Any information you may have we would be grateful to receive, we are very eager to learn more about this. Thank you. Wendy
My 2 year old daught cries to her father and i not to let the ghost get her. While she is playing in her play room. Then sometimes she will be playing by herself and start laughing and talkingIs it possible that she see’s a ghost of a child?
Hi Kathryn
Hard to say at this point for a two-year-old child as it not uncommon for children from two to four have imaginary friends and playmates and pets. Their brain’s synaptic power ranges at about 135% more than adults before the pruning takes place around 6 and 7 years of age. What is unusual is that she would use the word ghost at her age without prior exposure to the word. What is your sense of her use of that word specifically. Also if you’ll give me her first name and the city where you live, I can check in and see.
My daughter, now age 11 has seen ghosts since before she could speak. My question is – Do kids who have this ability seem to be more open to sickness? She has asthma and catches everthing. I just wondered if her openess leaves her open to everything.
Hi Dawn
That is an interesting question, often an unnoticed connection among parents of intuitive children. I found over the years that in observing how sensitive children interact with the world, you are observing four factors: their boundaries or lack of boundaries around empathy, sensitivity to their environment, how they manage stress, and their diet and sleep patterns. My book, Raising Intuitive Children, addresses these issues specifically because I HAVE found a correlation between the strength of a child’s immune system and their environment, and their relationship to their environment. Thanks for asking. It is such a great question, my coauthor and I wrote a whole book on it.
Thanks so much! I’ve ordered the book and I can’t wait to read it.
Dawn, people absolutely love Raising Intuitive Children. The answers to that stress and the effect on the immune system are covered well.
my firend has a 9 year old son that recently told her that he sees ghosts and that 1 is a large balck man that just stares at him and dosent say anything and then dissapers and then he told her that he also has been seeing a little boy that he thinks is funny and i guess he plays with him….any suggestions?
Hi Stephanie
Yes I do have some suggestions on how the nine-year old can handle those ghosts, but I always speak or deal with the parent and the family directly. There are many reasons for this….their values, family acceptance of the ghost phenomenon, and their permission to address concerns about their son. If you would like to refer your friend to this blog, please do and I will be happy to respond. You could also buy your friend the book, Raising Intuitive Children, as it details how to help kids in this age range who have psychic experiences. Thanks so much for asking. I appreciate your concern and desire to help.
Caron
I have no idea who to aks for help. My granddaughter is 2 and is seeing something at the apartment she lives in wiht her mother. We live about a hour from her and had to go and pick her up yesterday because she didn’t sleep at all the night before. She says she sees a man, no description, but she is scared. My daughter is beside herself, she has no idea what to do. i don’t even know how to approach her about it due to her age. She talks very well for her age but she is a quiet child and very shy. I would just like to know how to talk to her about it.
This seems really odd to me that I’m actually thinking this could be true, but it’s really starting to concern me. I have 3 children and I think all of them can see “ghosts” to some extent. And although I have never seen anything myself I have experienced things where the TV would turn on and off by itself, or the touch light would switch through all phases over and over; I figured it was just bad wiring. As far as my kids go..my middle son (3) was the first to see anything. We were sitting at the dinner table and he kept looking up at the window and smiling, and when we asked him what he was smiling at, he said that guy…of course we saw nothing and brushed it off. A few weeks later he was waving at the ceiling and when asked he said he was waving at a man with a pet monkey. We again thought his imagination was running away with him. It’s been about a year since then and now all of a sudden my other 2 kids are seeing things. My oldest son (6) said he was laying in bed and woke up to a man who walked into his room and turned on the movie “Shrek” on their TV and left, and that he had done this for several nights….and he seemed dead serious. Not long after that he was deathly afraid of going to his room, and now he doesn’t have any issues. Now, my middle son again (3 almost 4) has been talking to someone he calls “CoCo”, he talks to him everywhere, and says coco follows him, but he’s his best friend. He says he’s a 28 year old little boy…doesn’t make much sense, but that’s what he says. They get in arguments from time to time, but he’s never been scared. I don’t know if this is just a make believe friend, or something else. He says sometimes that coco is at his home and calls him on a pretend phone.
What is scaring my husband and I is that we’ve lived in our house for 2 years, it’s only 4 years old, and everything my kids have seen has been in this home. My husband says he’s heard the toilet flush upstairs when nobody but him was home. And very often do we hear footsteps go down the hall upstairs, when everyone including our dog is downstairs. It has scared us so bad to the point where my husband went upstairs with a knife and cleared the area. The footsteps were that distinct.
Now, the reason I’m on this website is because now all of a sudden my daughter (2) is deathly afraid of the dark, she screams so intensly that you’d think she was being hurt. Tonight I put her in bed, and walked out the room. As soon as I turned off the hall light she screamed bloody murder. I ran up thinking she hurt herself on her bed, and she kept yelling “ghost ghost ghost” I didn’t even know she knew the word ghost. She pointed to her ceiling in one particular place and I asked her what they looked like. She said “like me” and pointed to herself. I asked her if it was a little boy or girl, and she said little boy and he’s scary. So I went to where she was pointing and put my arm up and asked her if it was there and she said no and pointed to where it was. I tried to shoo it away and told her he was gone and that I’d leave the hall light on. As soon as I left she screamed this bloody shriek again and said “GHOST!” I came back in and she was so freaked out and wanted to leave her room. Now, she refuses to go in her room because there is a ghost.
I guess what I’m asking is this just normal little kid imagination, or could I really have 3 kids that are seeing ghosts in my house? And what do I do to comfort them. Sorry for the long story, but with 3 kids it’s a lot for me to deal with.
Thanks so much for any advice.
Dear Scared Mom,
Please tell me the city and state or province you live in so I can check into your home. From my first gut level feeling, I do feel you have an occasional ghostly event, but I need to go deeper into the situation, or put you in touch with someone I may know and trust in your area to visit your home.
Caron
HI, I have a 15 year old daughter that is seeing Ghosts, she sufferes from adhd ( so we been told over the years). Does not do well in school.
Though she sees many ghosts she has one little 5 year old girl that is around often and has been with her for many years.The others came later. My daughter is not afraid of these visions but they interfere with her having a normal life. She knows she is different and seem to act out and claims it is because she is different from everyone else. Has struggled through life with peers and school. She is gifted musically, can play and self teach most instruments.
She is not talking to the visions though the little girl wants to play all the time with her, my daughter chooses to ignore her. The others are dressed in dress clothing described to be from another century. She feels they want to communicate, its almost like she understands them and they want her help??
we have become aweare of these visions over the last 2 years and i guess we hoped it would all fade away.
We have had a difficult time raising our daughter as she has been very head stung and beats to her own drum, sometimes it is too much for her to handle, which scares us! It would be nice if she had someone that she could talk to that was experiencing the same and was similar in age.
We love her dearly and hope that she will be able to lead a productive normal life. She is scheduled to see so a psychiatrist in the near future and we pray they will not want to medicate or hospitalize this special child but we are at our wits end, please offer some help or lead us in right direction.
waiting your reply
Thank You
c/ from Vancouver B.C
Hi my name is rachel, My son Angel who is 8 told me that he see’s dead children. He told me that they dont bother him they just stare at him and it kinda scares him because he said that there faces are all messed up.he also told me that some of them had stiches on there bodies. he said that there dressed normal and some times they look mad or sad. He told me that when he sees one he pretends he didnt see it at all or he closes his eyes and when he opens them there gone.
he mostly sees them outside when hes playing but he did tell me he has also seen them or felt them in his room when he goes to bed at night.im worried about him. any advice? i dont kno how to talk to him about it. thank you.
Hello Rachel,
The best advice I can give you is just to listen and be interested in his conversations about it. Often times I ask children to draw, color, or paint those images to get what is on the inside to the outside. Sometimes that decreases their focus on the images. There isn’t anything to do about it really unless this has been a long term or consistent sighting of ghosts.
The kinds of images he is seeing are not unusual for boys entering puberty or for children under high stress. Has there been unusually stressful events recently? Or one that corresponds to his sightings?
Caron
Hey yeah i saw spirit my whole life i am now 23 and still have some contact every now and then. Ive seen passed on grandparents and plenty others ive never met. But i went to Medical school and learned about the chemical Melatonin ..it is in babies brains and fades off during puberty. that is why children see spirits.
HI Brandi
Thanks for sharing. What is the Melatonin connection that you learned about? readers may be interested in the information.
Caron
Hi Cheryl
Thank you for writing and sharing your frustrations. I am not clear on whether the frustrations are from your daughter seeing ghosts, or the ADHD or that she has her personal inner rhythm? Which would you like some help with? let me know, and i will respond.
I appreciate you writing because what you describe is very typical of parents who have had a hard time with children of the intuitive learning style. As a special education teacher, I have talked to many parents like yourself as well as taught their children who have a unique talent, an inner rhythm, a different viewpoint, frustrating behaviors because the kids are also as frustrated as the parents.
I truly urge you to buy the book, Raising Intuitive Children, in the hopes that you will learn more about the intuitive child and shift your style to match what they need to use their gift and express their talents with confidence. And I hope you do this before you take her to see a psychiatrist, whose protocol may be exactly to provide medication. I am not saying it is easy, but I do believe it helps tremendously when a parent can see through the eyes of the child also.
I think my uncles house is hunted because there is a lot of activity and sometimes i feel a brezze,but I do to see ghost but nobody belives me
HI Bryce
Are there any other happening besides feeling a breeze?
Caron
Hello,
My 12 year old daughter has been telling me since she was about 6 and probably younger, that she see’s dead people. The 1st was when she was very young and I assumed it was just an imaginary friend. Then later about three years ago she told me that she would see very scary dark angry figures in her room. One event was of a dark angry man over her sister’s bed and at the same time a very scared crying little girl at the end of her bed. At the time I was in a very bad relationship with a man who was very mean to her and her sister, but mainly her. She has always been somewhat high energy and head strong so we had been looking at possible behavior problems, and had diagnosed her as having ADHD at the time. That later was thought to be Bi Polar, the problem is that none of the meds ever really helped her and since about a year ago the relationship with the man has ended, and thus her behavior has gotten better, except during the school year. She had spent a short time trying to live with her father, which didn’t go very well, but he took her off her meds, she returned with me after my relationship ended about a year ago. Since then she has been unmedicated and though I thought the visions had stopped she has been telling me for about 6 months now that they have not. She mainly just sees random people but has seen some family members that recently passed. The family members don’t bother her at all, but most of the other people really scare her and she is starting to see them at school. Over the last couple of days there has been a man in our house that she then sees in a reoccuring dream and in the dream he is trying to kill her then she wakes up. I haven’t really been sure how to handle this but due to the fact that she is hardly getting any sleep due to it I am seeking any help that you can give me. I too have in the past felt a negative precence in our home, about 7-8 years ago I awoke, but wasn’t really awake, to see a dark shawdow glob hovering above my now ex husband, and I couldn’t move or breath, when I finally really woke I was gasping for air and very scared. I just prayed over and over for the spirit to leave us alone. I have advised my daughter to do the same, to tell the spriit to go away, but she says they won’t.
Please let me know how to help her.
Hi Shannon
I do have someone who can help you and your daughter. If you would please email me at caron30 @ gmail.com, I can give you the woman’s info. Also, please tell me where you are located geographically.
Thanks for writing an be assured!
Caron Goode
I don’t know if the e-mail went through or not. but I did send one last night. We live in Marysville, WA. Since I’ve started being a bit more open with her about this things seem to be subsiding I think. Tuesday night she was scared to tell me, but she finally told me that the same dark spirit was outside. My response was, “That’s good that’s where he needs to be, he doesn’t need to be in your home and scaring you.” Then I had my own words with this spirit without her knowing. In the morning she said that she only had one dream with him in it that she could remember, and she could not remember any of her other dreams, I think she finally got some really good sleep. Last night she wouldn’t really talk about him, and then this morning when I asked how her dreams went she said, “I think I had like one dark dream, and then I had a dream about my friends playing football”. When I asked if the dark dream involved the same dark spirit, she got a little angry and told me not to remind her? So, I just told her I’m just trying to help her, but that’s where it ended. Even though I have my own fears of such things I am going to tell her that I would like her to keep me informed when things happen and that I’m not going to press her for information, unless it’s needed.
Please let me know if you got the e-mail.
Thanks again,
Shannon
Hello I understand what you are going through my daughter who has just turned 13 has had much the same problems minus the adhd since she was very young i also thought they had went away , but found out a little over a year ago that this is not the case. she sleeps with her head under the covers, but we support her whole heartly and have told her that some of the people she sees are family some spirits coming to vist and those dark figures that frighten her earth bound ghost who are confused, scared , and yes a little mad or upset. how i have explained this to her is how would you feel if everyone around you couldn’t see you and you were ignored in would upset you also. this seems to help her understand some. if your daughter would like to talk to someone her age that knows what she going through i’m sure my daughter would like that just let me know
Thank you for your response. I will talk to my daughter and let her know that this is an opportunity that might help. I’ll keep you posted. Thanks again.
Shannon
Thank you Jessica for reaching and for being available. You are kind to reach out. This blog is kind of like an on-line meet-up group.
Blessings
Caron
Caron,
I had posted earlier today about my 12 year old daughter but I don’t see the post. My daughter has been seeing ghosts for years, the first I thought was just an imaginary friend but then she started reporting to see other things that were much more disturbing to her. Lately it has gotten to the point that she is unable to sleep because one particular spirit/ghost is also visiting her in her dreams, and she wakes up just as he is trying to kill her. She’s scared to sleep because of this reoccuring dream, and she has seen the spirit in our home and at school. I have told her to tell the spirit to go away and that she is the one who has control, but she says this doesn’t work. She has seen different “shadows with light” but they don’t usually bother her, but she has seen other “dark figures” over the years who have scared her. She has also seen family members who don’t bother her as well. Also, once she saw a living family member who wasn’t actually there but was in danger.
If you are able to help my daughter I would greatly appreciate it.
Thank you,
Shannon
Hi Shannon, Yes I can help your daughter, and we should schedule a call. I’ll respond privately, but you and I should talk first so I can understand the family dynamics and I can share other info with you.
Caron
im scared because i have been seeing ghosts since kindergarden after my gpa died. i dont know what to do and im afraid to tell people beause i dont want to get teased. im scared people wont belive me. the spirits have kept me up crying b4 and i cant get them to do away no matter what and i feel one is watching me right now. i usualy try to ignore it but its been getting harder to and im tired of dealing with it. ive prayed for it to go away and it did for a year…and then i moved and now its worse! i talked to my friend shinia about it and she understood and she tryed to help and prayed for me…and im not some crazy little kid who wants attion..
Dear worried teen. Thanks for writing. Let’s see if we can help. First, can you answer some questions for me?
How old are you now?
After your grandpa died, have you ever seen him?
Please tell me how the spirits keep you up and night? And how do they make you cry?
Describe as best you can what you actually see?
Thanks, and I’m Caron by the way
My son is 11 years old now, but several years when he was around 5 or 6 he spent the night at my mother’s house. He woke up in the middle of the night and said he saw on an old women sitting in the chair in the room he was sleeping in. He got up and went downstairs and woke up his grandma and told her what she saw. Now my mother is not the type of person to believe in ghosts and told him he was being silly and go back to bed. The next day he told me this story. I believed him because I had grown up in this house and witnessed strange occurrance like faucets or TV’s suddenly turning on by themselves while I was growing up in that house. So I asked my sister whose old bedroom it was while she growing up if she had ever seen a ghost in that room. She said, “Oh, you mean the old lady.” At any rate, my son refuses to sleep in that room at grandma’s house eversince. I have had lots of experiences during my life where I heard unexplained noises and have seen what I believe are ghosts. (Not like it happens all the time. They have occurred many years apart.) I think I saw a ghost last night, so it’s on my mind today. I’m wondering if this is something that runs in families and why some people see and hear things. There have been occassions when I have heard strange unexplained noises or have seen things flying across the room. On a few of these occassions, my husband was with me and he saw them too. So I have another witness. However, my husband has never seen anything unless I’ve been with him. My husband says, “I make these things happen.” Can that be true? Just wondering what your thoughts on these things. By the way, I don’t believe I have psychic powers. I don’t see visions or can’t predict the future. But I do believe I’m very good at reading people and can immediately sense what type of people they are and can easily pick up on other peoples emotions.
HI AMY
In answer to your questions, please buy the book Raising Intuitive Children featured on this blog because you will find the characteristics of people who are intuitive, creative,empathic or psychic. If you are good at reading people and sense their type, etc, then you most likely have a strong intuitive sense with high empathy. And yes, intuitive intelligence does run in families. When your husband says that you make these things happen, the phenomena is called psycho-kinesis, and yes, it can happen, although usually by accident or people who have this skill are unaware of how it really works. On the other hand, people like Uri Geller who could bend spoons, have mastered aspects of it. Yet, spoon bending has become more common place at psychic parties, and regular people find they can do it through concentrated focus. Focus is the key.
Thanks for sharing your son’s story! Can’t say I blame your son for not wanting to sleep there!
Have a good one!
Hi I have a 6yr old boy who says he see’s a man all in white including his hair…he says he doesn’t say anything. One night, I heard a bay crying, I muted my TV & nothing, then I heard it again but louder, so I ran to my son’s room which is right beside mine & the door was open, So I paused & my son was sound asleep. He always used to sleep with his door closed. Now, he says he hears things, to me when he tries to repeat it, it sounds like jiberish. We pray every night. What does it mean when the spirit is in white? all the other stories have dark shadows…He wants to move or change rooms. Sometimes he would say things like something ‘tricky’ is going on over here or he would say ‘what’ and swear one of us said something to him… I also think he said something about his window & a boy or man was outside & he was scared…but I checked it out & nothing was there…what do u think? I think the white figure is his guardian angel.
Hi Valerie, most of the stories on this blog are associated with children seeing something that frightens them because they seek help. And there are also wonderful stories of people seeing angels and connecting with their guides. Yes, we usually associate figures in white or lighter colors with angels or guides although that is a generality. Most people conclude this as a personal decision based upon how the being feels to them. Now is a good time to encourage your son to talk to, confront, engage or communicate with the figure so he understands and knows what he is seeing, and not becomes afraid of it.
hello again, I wrote you about a month ago about my 2 1/2 yr old. at the time I was questioning if she was really seeing ghost. the house we live is is over 100 years old and we never really had anything happen other than Cloie talking and seeing them. the last few weeks things have been getting worst. there are noises(loud, like you can hear them upstairs and when you go in there noone is there) in the kitchen. she has recently become scared of shadows and noises.it got so bad last week that we left the house at 230am and have not been back. you had mentioned maybe a medium or someone working with her. we would be interested in a medium to see why they are there and why they have started scaring her. do you have any suggestions on who we could get? when you say work with her what does that mean?
Wendy, where do you live?
Caron
Hi Dani, Yes I believe it is really possible that she sees. At two years of age, her brain wave states are very fluid, and she can be focused one minute and kind of dreamy the next minute. In the dreamy phase, it is more likely she can see into energy fields around her as two year olds don’t have the life experience to make up the specifics. However, because they are highly intuitive at age two, kids plug into the feelings of the adults in the household and their mind can form pictures of such. In the case of a two year old, you would expect her to continue seeing for another two years or so. Please buy, Raising Intuitive Children because it also discusses how children with intuitive intelligence mature with their gifts. What you are looking for is consistent behavior over the next several years to determine if the intuition will stay open or if she starts to develop other interests in the world. Hope this helps? Do you have any other questions?